The past couple weeks it seems like life has been in a whirl and I can’t seem to catch up. But then, how boring would life be if it were always the same.
Some of you who have been readers for a while know about the struggles of my husband, Ron, and I trying to adopt our two granddaughters. We were denied the youngest, Kae-Lee, and she was adopted by her foster care parents almost a year ago. We were still hoping to get Kiley, who is seven and severely handicapped, but we recently received the denial that they are giving her to complete strangers who live in northern Michigan, ironically in the very area where Ron’s parents retired to and we have spent a lot of time. That adoption will most likely go through in the near future. I did put in a call to the attorney that was trying to help us before to see what the retainer would be and what she thinks the chances are of winning a Section 45 hearing, but I already know from reading numerous appeals decisions that it is very hard to win.
What is very frustrating is CPS/DHS denied us contact with the girls, both before and after the termination of parental rights. Then when Michigan Children’s Institute wanted us to have supervised visits for MCI to make a final adoption decision, DHS fought against that as well and the judge ruled against us getting the visits. So what is one of the reasons we are being denied? Lack of contact for over three years — and yet they are giving her to a complete stranger.
When the adoption agency wrote their recommendation that we adopt, they recommended we get only the older one, not the younger. Why? Because the younger had been with the foster care family from the time she was an infant and they wanted to adopt. As for Kiley, they said she should be adopted into a family as the only child — but they are awarding her to a family that has other handicapped children in it.
Their third reason was that we do not have experience in caring for a child with severe handicaps requiring 24-hour care. The time we spent caring for her prior to being kidnapped by CPS apparently doesn’t count. That’s okay, because I had started a book about this situation and was taking my time to see what the outcome would be. Now that I know, I can delve into my writing more intensely and obviously will have a lot of time for promotion of the book once published.
I know we are not the only family this has happened to. Kidnapping by Child Protective Services/Department of Human Services is a nationwide problem, no family is safe. Removal of children from loving homes, placing them in foster care and then giving priority to non-family members, rather than biological relatives, has been going on for at least 15-20 years and needs to be stopped.
If you were not reading my blog at the time I wrote in more detail about our situation you can check it out at Attempted Adoption. I would love to hear from others who have had experiences with this type of situation, good or bad.
--- LIFE IS A MELTING POT --- Grace Grogan...Writer, Photographer 
I am two having problems With MCI and Bethany I am a grandmother of two little girls that live in Michigan and my son had lost custody of them. So I and my daughter were trying to get custody we went to Bethany Christian adoption agency to see what we could do the supervisor told my daughter and I that they can do an interstate adoption we would need a home study. they made us believe t Bethany told us it will go faster if my son gave up his right to his children so we can start the interstate adoption so he did and so we have waited for the superviser to start the adoption with my daughter month are going bye Devin the superviser gave us a caseworker to start the adoption but to fine out, they have already started adoption after 4 month the casework is telling me and my daugter that she does not have to do a home study because they are not going to refer us for the adoption so we file sec 45 and my daughter lost they gave me 30 day extention my daughter lost because the mci it was not at fault it was Bethany witch mci use bethany note for the reason to deny my daughter it has taken a year in half to get in to see the judge now my graddaugters have been there for 2 years when we came to them it was only 9 months now they want to say the foster family is the best interest for my grandbabies i have been flying her from califorina every 3 week to vist my grandchildren for 2 hours for the last 7 month and doing zoom So what they expect me to sit back and let them kiddnap my grandchildren who do they think they are something needs to be done with this baby snachers.
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I definitely know the feeling. I lost two grandchildren to CPS kidnapping. It is a nationwide problem that has been going on for decades. Sad that CPS has powers above the law and their actions are supported by judges who don’t want to take the time to seriously look at what is going on or don’t care.
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